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Overcoming 2017

A Chat With A Hint Of Jasmine

Written by: Bella Date: December 27, 2017

Dear Brownie,


It's almost 2018! How goes your end of year? And how went your 2017?If I'm being all the way honest with you [which I usually am], my 2017 was a poop show. Riddled with poor choices, loss of friends [and sometimes dignity], heartbreak and yes, its bestfriend frustration. I found myself looking in the mirror several times and wondering what I would look like if i wore my hurt on my skin, imagine if I had one tattoo for every hurdle I had to jump this year! 


I know, I know, I never get expressive or emotional on my blog. Most likely because I'm much better at speaking my truth than writing it. If you're subscribed to my youtube channel HERE or my snpachat 'thebellaeffect', you know I talk all the time. Jasmine who is an amazing writer [here's her blog HERE] came to me with a challenge. She wanted us to talk about our failures and successes this year;bare it all and honestly, I felt excited by the idea of that. You should read her post here:


Guys, this year was a TEST! I started out 2017 feeling on top of the world, I had survived a year that tore so many down and I really did get cocky to soon and when that happens, God has ways of humbling us all.


But here's the thing, where I really thought there was a casting down, there was such a lifting up! At an age where I was so sure I knew myself, could vouch for my choices and stick to my 'principles' God showed me that there is so much I don't know! So much I am yet to uncover and such strength and optimism that I could withstand anything, maybe because this year, I withstood it all.


One thing that happened this year is that I had to cut off one of the closest friends I thought I have for reasons that neither of us could foresee and that loss spread so quickly into other aspects of my life. It was so traumatic that I had to spend weeks praying for God to give me peace, most likely the first time I've been so desperate in my requests from Him and He really has come through for me. I'm also hoping for this peace concerning th passing of my grand father today (yes, the day you're reading this). Please pray for his soul to rest in perfect peace.


Sometimes you don't know how strong you are until you are put to the test. Sometimes, you are so confident you forget God and He will surely find a way to remind you. This isn't a fantasy post. I still hated my year, but I would be a fool to think that this year was just a mess of bad luck, I know better. Here are important lessons I learnt along the road:


1. Do not judge anyone, especially without knowing their hearts. You will find yourself in similar sitautions where you may make similar decisions

2. When you make a mistake, own up to it and free yourself. Don't torture yourself more than God has, He has forgiven you because you are contrite. Look forward

3. Love is not 3 dimensional. It can be pulled and pushed to the breaking poit just as easily as it can be nurtured back to health

4. If you don't have God, everything else means nothing. I know it sounds cliche but my life is a testiment

5. Anyone can change. ANYONE

6. There is no such thing as a coincidence, everything is God's plan


With that being said, I want to give the team at Bleisure Social Restaurant and Bar for letting us invade their space. Its a pretty place for pictures, time with family, your special events and some yummy cocktails too! Would you like to visit? Check them out on IG HERE


Thank you for having us!

** Don't forget to check out Jasmine's heartfelt post on her blog as well HERE and check out her IG HERE**



What was your peak this year?


Be Better Brownie!



1 Readers Commented

  1. Ibifuro December 28, 2017 | Reply
    Thank you so much for the reminder. I feel like 2017 ran through me and I accomplished little or nothing but reading this post has made me realize that its never too late to let God take the wheel. May grandpa's soul rest in peace ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™ And God will double the peace you seek. You're Brownie:: you'll definitely be Better. ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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